Where I go…dreams really do come true

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As of today it is official I am taking off almost 2 months to travel. I am in between it feels sureal and how am I able to do this/why am I doing this? I know this is exactly what I need. In fact during the internship last year there was a moment where I knew I wanted to travel the world and live with people of different cultures, of different ethnicity’s, with one desire to learn what love is. But I let the dream slip by me. I didn’t actually think I would follow through on this dream. But God has this way of placing dreams in my heart and then by his favor and grace making them happen. This dream re-appeared this month when I was talking with my old roommate from the internship. We began discussing dreams for the future, things we want to do. And then realized we were both in the position to do this. Road trip. Not just for a weekend. But for almost a month. So in less than a month I will be on the road traveling with her traveling the west coast of the united states. Staying with friends, staying with strangers. Visiting places I’ve been before, visiting places I’ve only dreamed of visiting. After a month of traveling I will come back home for two weeks and work. Then, leave again for a week to visit friends IHOP-KC, come back for a week to work and then leave for another week and a half to vacation with the family in Florida. By this time it will be late October. I have no idea what the Lord has in store for me in all this traveling. To be honest I am in a season of hope and excitement, yet I have no idea what is in the next season, guess that shows real faith. Hope in the unseen. My trust lies not in circumstances, not in man. But God.

 I am not quite sure how this will shape me as a person, my business, or my life. All I know is I ‘need’ this. On this trip, I wanna learn what love is at a deeper level. I want to take pictures at a whole other level. I want to learn how to love strangers like God loves them. I want to feel the Lords heartbeat for each and every place we go. I want to stop not just for a moment, but a day, and then another day, and another one and breathe. I want to soak this life in. I want to re-discover what life and love is all about.

And so continues my journey…

seems surreal that this is my life at times. My life in the last year has been that which I thought you only dreamed of, but never really happened. I am learning dreams really do come true.

Blessings.

KJ

“State your intentions please”

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It is so strong on my heart to see men and women acting in accordance to how God intended singleness unto marriage to look like.

Tonight I have been reading some amazing articles after googling “christian dating”. I was pleasantly surprised at this amazing series in particular on singleness & dating as a Christian. I would highly suggest reading the following articles all the way through!

Stop Test-Driving your girlfriend

Real Men Risk Rejection

Brother you’re like a Six

Not your Buddy

A man should be required to state his intentions for a woman. If you are allowing him to be your best buddy & have your time/energy. He doesnt need to work for you, he already has your time, attention, energy. {Want to add, that the male on the receiving side may or may not acknowledge that he has this from you. Whether he does or not does not determine how you are to act.} I want to say this in bold because you are not to hand over to just any man let alone every man your heart, time, energy however this DOES NOT MEAN you are to make men jump through hoops women! What it does mean is that you have an understanding of your worth. You realize that you are a beautiful creation that is to be honored and respected. You are to be living for one man Jesus whether single or married. When your eyes are fixed upon Him, the man will need to make his intentions known because you should be so wrapped up in gazing at the one that you almost don’t recognize or notice him in a sense. I remember describing the process in which a man & women should begin a relationship from the womans perspective to a friend who was struggling with this very issue.

In your life you are to seek first the kingdom of God, gazing at the beauty of this man, exalting His name. Suddenly there is a man standing next to you, you notice him but go back to worshipping. Before you know it you and this man are running in sync towards the same prize and pretty soon you encouraging, pushing each other to reach higher than possible before. You realize that with this person you are able to do more for the kingdom, you are able to run harder, faster, you are able to endure more together rather than apart.

I would dare you to believe that God can and will fulfill every longing, every desire within your heart. That he will purify each and every one of those desires for his glory. Instead of leaning on the crutch of loneliness, and giving your time, energy, and heart away to a man who has not yet earned it give it all to Jesus. Trust Him that he will allow the right man to step in and ask when the time is right {yes, the man may not actually act upon the lords prompting for a good month or two or six, but remember he is human. This is where praying for your future spouse comes in;} It is so important as a woman to allow the man to pursue, for the man to initiate the relationship {whether that be asking you out on an official date, or having “the talk”}. God created men to lead, as a godly woman it is your duty to allow the man to be who God created him to be. Make him man up. You will not get in a relationship quicker if you choose to spend all your time with a man who has no intention of a serious relationship, you will instead most likely find yourself crying out to God confused & hurt. So bypass that and do it the God way. Seek God.

{I am sure I will blog on being pursued another day, because that is a whole ‘nother topic in itself.}

Blessings.

Kymberly Janelle

“Under Construction”

 “Unless the LORD builds the house,
         They labor in vain who build it;
         Unless the LORD guards the city,
         The watchman stays awake in vain.”

{Psalms 127:1}

I have had so many blog topics, concepts running through my head  this last week geared towards singleness. They  however all came to a standstill when I looked out the window of the coffee shop and I saw road construction.  The road had been ground down; it was now rough, bumpy and then it came to me: “under construction” is what this blog topic would be called.

In the season of singleness this is similar to what we are going through. We are under construction. When you are constructing any type of building there are several phases that it goes through. I believe we can relate these to our walk with the Lord in this season. The first scripture I think of is Psalms 127:1 which says:

 “Unless the LORD builds the house,
         They labor in vain who build it;
         Unless the LORD guards the city,
         The watchman stays awake in vain.”

In our single walk we must make sure that the Lord is building the house {in this case I am referring to you as the house – “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body[a] and in your spirit, which are God’s” –  1 Corinthians 6:19-20}. In Matthew 7:24-27 Jesus tells the parable of the man building His house:

24 “Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: 25 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock.
26 “But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: 27 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.”

Lets go over the phases it takes in building a house {I condensed it from the list of 25} and how this pertains to our walk with God:

  1.  Staking lot & house: This is completely God. He choose to create us. We had no say in this.
  2. Clearing & Excavation: First the site of where the house will be must be cleared of any debris, they must uproot any trees that do not belong. In our own lives God desires to clear out all things that hinder Him from His plans for our lives. He will uproot any ‘tree’ {ideas, false identities} that we may have about ourselves, God, and the world. This can at times be painful as we feel the Eyes of the Lord searching our hearts for the motives, desires within us. But let us remember the Fear of the Lord is clean. There is no condemnation. He cleans and reveals out of love, to draw us closer to Himself.
  3. Foundation: We must build on a firm foundation, and that foundation is the Word of God. Matthew 7 & 13 outlines what occurs when someone who hears the word of God does not allow it to root down deep. This is our responsibility to meditate, dwell on the Word of God. We are to search for God as silver and gold.
  4. Inspection: This inspection is to see how the progress is coming along. To ensure that there is nothing that was missed in laying the foundation. Many times we will feel as though we are in a time of a heart check. To assess our heart motives as we build this house. We need to make sure that as the house is being build this house we acknowledge it is for GODS glory, not our own. And it is by His power and strength that any of this is made possible.
  5. Framing & Drying & Exterior Siding: Now were there were only beams, there are now walls.  There is now protection from the elements of whats outside to those who dwell inside. In this phase no longer can any passerby, animal just walk into the house. These walls I would call boundaries. As a christian, especially single Christians it is important to have boundaries. To know what the word of the Lord says about our lifestyle. Its not about what is right and wrong, it is about what hinders love.
  6. Roofing: Covering the house is important. Through this phase, the Lord covers us in His love. He is our protection.  Were we were use to protecting ourselves in self preservation mode, we must trust that God can and will do this for us. We must allow Him to be our covering. {Psalm 91}.
  7. Insulation: I like to think of this as Holy Spirit. Its the “filling” of the house. However with Holy Spirit we are to be continually filled.
  8. Flooring & Drywall/Painting & Trim:  That on which we walk on is now being laid. What are you walking on? What have you trusting to uphold you as you walk on it? Hopefully truth. Painting & Trim is also being administered. In this we can tell the house is almost done. Let patience persevere. Let us not grow hasty and believe that we have done the work ourselves. We shine because He shines. We love, because He first loved us. Let us not be blinded by pride when we see the beauty of the house.
  9. Cleanup: There has been minor messes made up to now with the exterior painting, roofing, flooring. We learn who we are in Christ, we learn what is okay for us to wear, how to glorify God through our words… Through this process there will naturally be success’ and failures. Christ is there to help redeem and cleanup any mistakes we have made along the way.
  10. Landscaping: I like to think of this as the treatments Esther went through. The beautification, the preparing herself for the King.
  11. Final Inspections: This is another heart check. An assessment may be made. In my opinion this is where the lord reminds us of our weakness’, our natural tendencies to stray from Him. Now that the ‘final inspection’ is done, let us remember we are never completely done because we are human. We will continually go through His refining fire. This is simply a particular season on the house being built

A reminder about being “under construction” as a single person.

You are not yet ready. There is still building, trim, cleanup that needs to be done. Trying to jump ahead and invite someone into the house when you are on Phase 1 can and will hurt the both of you. This process is vital. And jumping into a relationship without an understanding of who you are in Christ can create pain in both parties.

I hope this helped those of you walking out singleness. As it is a beautiful season to be in. And there is a purpose for it, it is not just a chunk of time of waiting until your future spouse comes along. This is just my interpretation of building a house and how it correlates with our walk with God.

Blessings.

Kymberly Janelle

Singleness: Proactively waiting

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“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.”

Proverbs 31:22

It is late and I am pumped on endorphins after an awesome workout, therefore I can’t sleep. But it goes beyond endorphins. Its that I can’t get to sleep until I write kinda thing, until I touch the heart of God and know what He is thinking tonight. It goes to my desire to know truth. For those around me to know truth. Especially single women. Awhile back I was doing a mini series on what it means to be a single woman of God. And tonight I want to re-visit that topic. This weekend a friend reminded me of verse 22 in the well known Proverbs 31. Its quoted above. “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” The key phrase is HE. Not the woman. It is not the woman’s responsibility to be looking, searching for a husband.

It is my belief that just as the body of Christ is to prepare themselves as Christs bride as pure, spotless, and holy we are to be doing the same as we wait to become married. It goes back to “proactively waiting”. Above all else our eyes are to be fixed on Jesus. Philippians 4:8 is a constant reminder of what to do when I am unsure, doubting, or worried: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” You know what is true, noble, right, pure, holy? JESUS! When in doubt, open the word of God and learn about Jesus.

I want to open up a bit about my personal walk in hopes that it encourages, and maybe it resonates with some of you as well. As of late in my prayer time I have felt the Lord calling me to Arise, to prepare myself as a bride. The one true meaning of this will ALWAYS be in reference to Jesus first and foremost. No matter what. I am already bethrothed, and I am to be acting, talking, thinking as though I am. This means setting my gaze higher, not settling for less, it can come down to very practical things. But the main purpose of it all is to GLORIFY JESUS through myself. How I arise and prepare myself may look different than how you do. But there will be a common denominator, Jesus is exalted and Jesus is our source of strength. The moment I think I can do it on my own and “let go” so to speak, I find myself quickly drowning in the sea of confusion and misrepresentation of what life is ‘suppose’ to look like according to the world.

So to go over again what it means to proactively wait, here are some practical steps. Take them or leave them. Better yet, talk to God about them. Ask Him what it is that He has specifically for you. And remember we ultimately are waiting for our King and savior Jesus Christ to return. We do this first and foremost for Jesus, and secondly for our possible future husband here on earth.

Proactively PRAY for your future spouse. This goes beyond the “bless him, keep him safe”. Ask the Lord about your future spouse. He knows Him better than you ever will and will be able to guide you in how to pray for this person even if you have not met them. What a powerful thing to be doing now!

Proactively prepare yourself as servant of Christ. As a disciple of Christ we are to serve. If you become a wife, serving is apart of the description. Start now, the so called little things like washing the dishes, letting the person go in front of you, paying for that persons groceries…Serve in your community. Ask the Lord where it is that He would have you involved.

Proactively seek Gods will for your life above your own. His ways are higher than our own. He knows what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, ten years from now. He knows what we need in our lives to build the patience, the long-suffering, the kindness to endure and overcome in the end. Is God asking you to move? Change jobs? Work more? Work less? Read the bible? What is it God is asking you to do vs what the world says a productive day is.

Patiently wait. This can be the hardest. Especially living in a microwave generation. We ask, and the world gives. God however desires relationship. The journey, he desires to partner with us to accomplish His will. {WHAT AN HONOR!!!}

And remember the holy grail is not having a husband, children, or a family. While being given the opportunity to partner with another human being on this earth is incredible im sure. The ultimate gift is Gods love. Let us NEVER forget the purpose of our life. Is to love God and allow Him to love us back.

Proactively prepare & guard your heart {know your hearts worth}: There is a scripture that talks about not giving your pearls to the swine. Women, this is for you especially. You do not give your heart to any man who says your cute. I repeat, do not give your heart away for free to the first man who compliments you. This compliment can be about looks, your ministry, and so on. The heart is a very precious thing. The man who gets your heart should be a man who understands the worth of your heart and has worked hard to hold it. {This does not mean making the said man jump through hoops}

Proactively assess how your heart is: Give your burdens to the Lord. Be honest. Its okay to be weak, its okay to admit you don’t like being single, or you are offended at the Lord for not being in a relationship. Just make sure that is not your focus. Our focus is to be on Jesus. But it is however important for us to work out the heart issues that we may have in our heart towards Jesus/God.

Remember in the waiting its not all about you. So many times you hear women, I myself am guilty of saying this. Where is he God, why can’t he hurry up. But then I am reminded God is doing His PERFECT work in this man as well.

Wow. I didn’t mean to write so many but hopefully it blessed you. Please remember I am NOT trying to come with a ten step program to go from being single to married. The fact is not all marry. period. BUT, we have a love that is greater than any earthly human can offer. This blog entry is merely a reminder to those seeking marriage, do it proactively, but let the man do the searching.

Blessings.

Kymberly Janelle