The things they never told me about Motherhood

Going into motherhood I knew I wouldn’t know everything. I knew there would be frustrating days. Exhausting days. Joyful days. Treasured moments…

 

…What I didn’t realize was how much I would learn about myself. 

Since having Isaac I have found myself in situations I never imagined. Both good and bad. In those situations I have found a strength within me that I didn’t know existed. When you have a child there truly is a mama bear, lioness that emerges. No one; nothing, will ever get between you and your child. You want the best for that little human and won’t let anything stop you. Not even yourself.

I remember the first few weeks he was born you would have found me on the floor balling my eyes out wanting the night to end so I could simply get sleep as I rocked him back as this little piranha fed what seemed like 24/7. I was part hysterics because I was exhausted and could barely function. Part mama bear. It was the mama bear that kept me going. It was the ‘no, I will provide for my baby, I will feed him, I will take care of him’ no matter what I am feeling, no matter what I am thinking.

You push past limitations you previously had. You find yourself doing things you never imaged you’d be able to do and think nothing of it.

 

You find yourself opening up in ways you never imagined. I am pretty sure its impossible to not look at a baby and have your heart melt just a little bit. Its in those moments that I choose to open my heart fully and soak up every second of his little person and who he is that day. I’ve begun verbally saying what I am thankful for about him as a person. Speaking destiny and truth over him daily. Theres something about saying it outloud that almost re-affrims and makes it even more real. I really believe in the power of words. I am a verbal processor so that may be where this comes from.

Its in the moments when he is on my hip. His arm curled around mine and he strokes my hair out of security that I am undone. To be his safe place is the highest honor and the scariest thing you could ask someone to be. To be his all.

He has taught me more about what it means to live than anyone. Each day I take time to just sit back and watch him. I watch him unassisted making choices, decisions by himself. What is it that he does? What does he choose to spend his time with?

He loves deeply. He laughs without care. He throws his body back without fear when he is overcome with joy. His eyes light up like he’s never been hurt.

I wanna be more like him in those moments.

 

 

What about you mamas? What have you learned about motherhood?

 

Top is from PinkBlush and can be found HERE ( I am wearing a small for reference)

Currently on sale for $30!

 

what they never told me about motherhood

Mothers Day with Hallmark

Losing my mom four years ago to cancer makes Mothers Day a bittersweet day. It is a day of remembrance and a day of looking forward. I have my beautiful son that I get to share memories with. Hallmark is a household name when it comes to cards. What I didn’t know was all the gifts they have. This mothers day is a one stop shop at Hallmark.


I love this little “mommy prayers” books. Sometimes when I am out of words this book gives me the words I need. You know those times when you’re at your wits end with your little one? Or to exhausted to put two words together. Or maybe thats just me 😉

 

 

 

This was a sponsored post. All opinions are my own.

Lets be honest mamas : All about sleep

Lets be honest mamas is back! So thankful my blogger friend Hannah over at Hannah Renee Blog started this all. Last months post was all about cleaning/tidying up make sure and check it out if you haven’t already.

This month is I think every mamas favorite and worst topic to talk about. Sleep. We all want it, but sometimes it’s easier said than done. I feel extremely thankful for the amount of sleep I am getting these days because it wasn’t always this way.

Now if I’m not getting sleep I have no one but myself to blame 😉

 

How well does your babe(s) sleep? Sleeping through the night? Taking good naps? None of the above? 😉

I have to say I feel so incredibly blessed with how much little man LOVES sleep. In the beginning it took some getting use to how much he needed to eat to be able to sleep longer stretches but we’ve got it down now. He has been sleeping through the night since 7 months old. Once he started sleeping through the night I am pretty sure every angel in heaven rejoiced. I personally do not operate well on no sleep and was doubting my capabilities of ever wanting to ever bring another baby into the world because if this lack of sleep thing was going to be a recurring theme there was no way. haha. At 11 months old he currently takes 2 two hour naps. He is teething (top two teeth) and when he is teething he typically naps longer. So some naps have been 2.5-3hrs.

Have you or are you planning to “sleep train”? How did you go about it?

I did a very baby led sleep training. I don’t believe that every baby is the same. Every baby needs are different. I didn’t want to put him in the same category as any other baby. So I loosely followed suggested guidelines and let him lead and show us what he needed. I am a firm believer that he knows what he needs better than we do. So I trust him to show/tell us what he needs.  I am apart of the Respectful Sleep Training Facebook group and that helped me SO MUCH! (I highly recommend joining, they only accept new members on wednesday) I followed the baby wake times. Little guy has always been on the lower end of wake times. So if he needs to sleep longer than they suggest thats fine. Or if he needs to go to bed sooner than most babies do thats okay.

This is the wake time chart I used. 

Little man is currently 11 months old and typically does 3 hour wake times. Occasionally we do 4 hour wake times but thats rare.

Describe your baby’s bedtime routine. Are there any products or methods you do to promote sleep?

He LOVES bedtime/naptime routine. On the weekends I put little man to bed, on the weekdays daddy does. Its his time with little guy since daddy works all day. Some nights we do bath (typically 2-3xs a week). While one of us is bathing him in his Duck Inflatable tub the other one starts his bottle. After bath time we lotion him up (baby lotion or coconut oil depending on how dry or soft his skin is), put nighttime diaper, and pajamas. By this point he is so beyond ready for his bottle. We give him his last bottle of the night and hold him with his lovey while he drinks.

Once he chugs his bottle (no joke!) we put him in his crib. This is his favorite part. He LOVES his crib and loves sleep. haha. We zip him up in his sleeping bag (we’ve been using sleep sack for the last 7 months and its the BEST thing ever. Especially at this age. It prevents him from trying to climb out of the crib and indicates its time to sleep. My favorite thing about the aden +anais sleeping bag is how long it is. I have little man in their Large Sleep Sack and there is soooooo much extra. I won’t buy any other sleeping bag. Seriously. This sleeping bag is super light weight so he can wear it all summer.

I put 2-3 pacifiers in his crib along with his favorite blanket and loves. He has had that little lovey since he was born. He has always had to have something touching/over his face to sleep.

We also use a white noise machine. We have used this from day one. I’m sure we could take it away, but it definitely helps him know its sleep time.

For nap times we always sing a little song that I made up as we bounce along on my hip to his nursery “Its time to go to bed. It’s time to go to bed. Its time, its time, its time. Its time to go to bed” By this time he is giggling, bouncing and SO EXCITED to get thrown into his crib. We turn on his white noise, close the windows. I sing the song again while zipping him up in sleeping bag + give him his paci and “teddy” (lovey) We play a couple games of peek a boo while he’s flailing his legs in excitement and then I say goodnight and walk out.

We leave him in his crib until nap time or bedtime is done. That is the one thing I am very strict about. He must be in his crib for one hour for naps, and in the morning he isn’t taken out of crib until 7am.

Did you try to create a “sleep schedule” or is it more flexible around your day?

At 11 months old he takes a 1-2 hour nap at 9:30am and 1:30pm. We are pretty strict with this cause he loves his sleep and he is like mama and NEEDS his sleep. He is a great sleeper so even if we aren’t home he will still sleep. I just make sure we have his blanket, lovey, sleep sack and white noise and he is good.

How do you feel about co-sleeping? If you do co-sleep, how and when do you plan to transition to a crib/bed?

 We choose not to co-sleep. We had him in a bassinet next to our bed the first six weeks. We put him in his crib though for naps so he was use to it right away and never had any issues transitioning him to the crib (well except me checking on him five millions times to make sure he was breathing)
ALSO we are doing a HUGE giveaway on Instagram for a $100 gift card to aden + anais! Go HERE to check it out! (Giveaway post will be live by noon today)
 
Make sure you check out all these other amazing mamas in the Lets Be Honest Mamas group:
 Amber Hill amberlately.com // Amanda Krovic amandakrovic.com // Britt Havens britthavens.com // Carla Thompson curiousnatalia.com // Emily Lindsey happilylindsey.com // Kacie Ellis elementsofellis.com //Mary Salas honeywild.co // Hannah Renee hannahreneeblog.com // Victoria Schneider thesoutherntrunk.com //  Stephanie Pollock koleimpressions.com // Sophia Johnson cultivatemotherhood.wordpress.com // Tanya Taylor hislittlelady.com//

 

 

Ring Review

Being a work from home mama I find myself alone with my little guy and safety can be an issue. I’m pretty sure we get 2-5 knocks on our door daily. No joke. I’m not always able to jump up and answer the door now being a mom. Especially if I’m in the middle of a diaper change I also don’t want to miss a package that needs my signature.

Enter Ring, they have created a video doorbell system that is a mom’s dream come true because, let’s be honest, those little peepholes in doors are pretty much impossible to see anything.


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But a video camera? Clear as day picture of who is at my door. And when daddy’s away sometimes, I get a little paranoid, so this is an answer to my prayers. My husband installed it in–just as they promised–5 minutes flat. He even admitted it was way easier than anticipated to install. We downloaded the app, and we’re good to go.

Thanks to technology, I can check who is at the door and talk to them from the touch of a button on my phone. Best part is, even if you don’t have a doorbell, Ring will work. With Ring, I am always home. When my little guy is napping, I try to work on blogging so I am not close to the door, and sometimes I don’t hear it (especially if they just knock). With Ring’s motion sensor, I know right away the moment someone is at my door.

Did I mention the video is crystal clear? It seriously is. Now when we’re playing, I don’t have to stop and worry about leaving my little guy alone to jump up and see who is at the door. Even better, I don’t have to stop playing games with my little guy. I can simply answer the door and little man thinks it’s great!

 

 

 

 

 

Ring. It means that no matter where you are, you’re always home.

 

 

 

Whether you’re a mom, or a working single, Ring is for you, and for a limited time, Ring is sharing a $25 discount code with me that’s good for the purchase of any Ring device, valid from now until May 14th. If you have a mama in your life, this would make a great gift for her for Mother’s Day! Simply make your purchase through this link or use the code “THANKSMOM” at checkout

This was a sponsored post. All thoughts are my own.

 

Mommy and Me Style + some ramblings about raising a boy

teach

love

kindness

acceptance

resilience

we are the future

Little mans ‘we are the future’ shirt from Shop Jumping Jack  got me thinking about raising a little human. Honestly its terrifying at times. I think about how much my parents influenced me growing up and the weight of what it means to be a parents weighs heavy on me. It’s not my words that he will truly remember, it is my actions. In the everyday. In how I spend my time with him, in how I respect and love his father, in how I accept myself. It is those everyday choices and the words I speak that will shape his belief system and outlook on what is possible in life.

I want him to believe that anything is possible. That when you work hard enough good things do happen. I want him to know that when bad things happen, because they will and they do its not because of something he did wrong. Life is not out to punish you. I want to teach him how to love others well. To respect, to pour into, to raise up and call out the good in those around him. My desire for him is for him to know his worth in this world. To know there truly is no one like him, that he has something to offer the world that it so desperately needs. That conforming helps no one, but standing up and staying true to himself helps everyone.

My hope and prayer is that my daily choices add up to something beautiful and impactful in a positive way. I want to be remembered for spending quality time with him, always reminding him of his worth, and never hesitating to give him one more hug or kiss. Okay cue all the tears.

Sidenote, How do some people look so graceful and beautiful when smiling and laughing with their kid? Me, yeah not so much. haha. But he loves me for it. So who am I to judge myself. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You guys I cannot even stand how he looks at me and reaches for me. I’m soaking up every last moment of it because I know when the toddler years come rolling around daddy is going to be his hero.

Shirts: Shop Jumping Jack / Shorts: Forever 21 / Shoes: Target

Isaac Shirt: Shop Jumping Jack / Jeggings: Target

DockAtot review

When I became a mom I was thrown into the world of “you need this, no you need this, no try this product, no try this one”. My goal was to only have what we truly needed. I had been a nanny for 8+ years and had a couple ideas of products that I liked and the kids I nannied all seem to like but none of them had ever had the DockAtot. Yet, every mom around me seemed to have one or was pinning over them. So I was curious. Was it really everything these moms talked it up to be or could I live without it?

So I decided to try it out. When our big black box arrived I’m pretty sure I squealed for joy. You know that feeling when a BIG box arrives with your new shoes or purse? Well thats how I felt. Guess I’m definitely a mom now. I squeal for joy when baby stuff comes. haha.

Little man was super excited to see what this thing was all about when he woke up from his nap.

For those who have never heard what a DockAtot is. Its a multi functional lounger, co-sleeper, and playtime lounger. They’re in Europe, with all natural 100% cotton.

Thats a win, win for me.

 

 

 

 

I had a lot of moms message me when I shared on instagram that our DockAtot arrived asking me how we liked it. Some wondered how I was using it for my 10 month old not knowing they make one for older babies. Yep, the Deluxe is for 9-36 months!! Others wondered if it really was as great as everyone seems to be raving. Yes, yes, and yes. I seriously wish I would have gotten the grand when he was a baby. We had him sleeping everywhere when he was first born (couch, floor, bed…) It would have been so much easier to just pull the DockAtot out and put him in instead of pulling out 3-5 blankets, putting pillows around him and so on. We already had enough baby stuff taking over our house, having the dockAtot then would have created a lot less clutter.

So for those of you on the fence as to whether or not its worth it. 100% It totally is.

To get $10 off your DockAtot click HERE

Our beaches here in the midwest aren’t as dreamy as the beaches in Hawaii where it seems like all my IG friends are right now (trying so hard to not be jealous) so bringing our DockAtot is the perfect solution. It’s big enough for him to play in, and perfect for him to nap it when he’s tuckered out. We simply folded it in half and put it on the stroller. As large as it is, its not all that heavy. So super easy to travel with.

We have the Deluxe Mod Pod for our little guy. Besides bringing it to the beach we use it at home in our living space. I throw toys in it and its his little “playground”. He loves just lounging in it as well “reading books” and drinking his milk.

I will be using his dockAtot when we transition him to a toddler bed as well.

Okay, enough chatting. Now some ridiculously cute pictures of little man in his dockAtot at the beach.


 

 

 

 

DockAtot: DockAtot to get $10 off your DockAtot click HERE // Swaddle Blankets: Swaddle Designs // Baby Swim Diaper: Cheeky Cloth

 

Do you have a dockAtot? Which one do you have? Would love to hear how you use it. 

This was a sponsored post. All opinions are my own. 

What I use to feed my 10 month old | JJ Rabbit Review

We are at the point of feeding little guy what we eat. Most of the time that is. We really like spicy foods, so I am waiting to introduce the extra spicy (I’m talking red peppers/curries until a little later). So we have our IKEA high chair that honestly I cannot imagine using anything else because of how lightweight it is and its white and well, I love white. haha. Only thing I don’t love is how the tray is not so easy to clean.

So when JJ Rabbit sent us this easter bunny feeding set bundle I almost jumped up for joy. Mamas, you NEED their SiliMATS . It exactly what we’ve all been looking for but didn’t even know. This anti-slip placemat is way different than any other brand (and we have a couple other brands that I purchased and they’re now collecting dust in a drawer.) they don’t have suction cups which I find to be annoying honestly. And it wraps perfectly on the IKEA highchair tray.  

Told ya it fit perfect ^^ 

 

 

The real winner for little man though was the cup which they name the cuppies. Each of their cups have a cute little animal attached at the bottom. How has no one thought of this idea sooner??? Its genius!


 

This next picture slays me. I see you little bunny

 

 

He apparently was so inspired by the new feeding set he decided to try a new way to eat…like a bunny.

Eventually he gave the spoon a try. Its kind of genius too mamas. 

Such a big boy!! So proud of him. 

 

 

 

Making sure the bunny is still in there…

 

 

Okay mom stop taking pictures of me eating. You can purchase this entire Easter Bunny Bundle for under $43 right now while its on sale! Make sure and let them know I sent you!

 

This was a sponsored post. All opinions are my own.