We don’t mean to do it, but it can happen and a lot of times it does happen. What is that? Taking our partner for granted.
In my relationship + marriage we have been through some pretty extreme highs and lows. Through it we are coming out learning how to love each other well and live grateful for the role the other one plays in our lives. I thought I would highlight three of my favorite ways to not take my husband for granted.
Don’t assume… Don’t assume he knows you are thankful, or hurt, or happy, or sad. Share with him. This doesn’t mean you need to have a 3 hr tearful talk everyday but keep him in the loop. Same goes for him. Don’t assume he is happy just because he hasn’t said anything.
The question game…Ask him thought provoking questions. I play a little game at bedtime with the kids I nanny and they look forward to it every night. Its called the question game. Each night I choose how many questions we will do. Its typically anywhere between 1-3. That is more than enough. They get to ask me any questions and I get to ask them any questions. The questions typically range from what was your favorite thing you got to do in school or with mom and dad, what did you have for breakfast yesterday, what was the hardest thing you had to do today, what made you mad/sad today? Now I am not saying you need to play this exact game but ask questions beyond just “how was your day?”, “how did work go”. The questions are so open ended. Now with that being said, sometimes for us women thats all we need before we spill the beans of everything we did that day. haha. I have been guilty of this.
Thank him…It is so easy to get caught up in the responsibility of day to day . Even if taking out the trash is his responsibility don’t hesitate to thank him for doing it. The more you thank him the more you will see how much he really does do around the house. Even if he still doesn’t understand how to put his socks in the hamper sitting 6″ from them lying on the floor 😉
I would love to hear how help yourself not to take your spouse for granted.