Women, I want to talk to you about fairytales. Most of us grew up with watching fairytales. We were taught about princess’s and being saved by the bad villain by a chisled modelesque prince who always perservered.
Then we began to grow up, we realized that disney movies may not actually be reality and the men in our lives didn’t always look like those princes’. Yet, deep down in our heart we still longed to be saved. And those movies just fed that desire. However what our eyes were feasting on was the wrong answer. The desire is legitimate. But the answer has always been and will ALWAYS be JESUS. He is the one that ultimately saves us from hell.
To often we have given into the fairytale dream, thinking that it is reality. That “mr. right” will walk up to us wearing the latest trendiest clothing, saying all the right things, thinking we are perfect, never complaining, having a 6 digit paycheck and a huge 5 carat ring in storage just waiting for us. This ladies & gentlemen is not reality. No matter who you are. We are all sinners, we are all human. Our breath does stink, we don’t always feel like dressing up, we may snap at the other person. But is this terms for writing someone off as the one? It better not be. Otherwise the said person will probably find themselves still single ten years later claiming “the one” still hasn’t come. That is because “the one” is a distant fairytale. We are so quick to come up with a fairytale in our heads of how everything will be sometimes we make a list, sometimes we put walls up and don’t let anyone in unless they meet our requirements. (Unless this is God inspired I don’t suggest lists and especially not walls) God knows who we need. Many times it doesn’t add up to what we imagined. Sometimes it is exactly what we imagined. Either way, our indicator of “the one” doesn’t not make them an option. God is the one that qualifies them.
Real love is beyond a fairytale. Real love is sacrificial, it does not boast, it suffers long, it is patient. Real love hurts. Because when the other one is hurting you hurt with them. Real love does not give up when times get hard. Real love preservers through the lonely moments, through the times of being rejected and it chooses to believe. Real love is only possible through Jesus Christ.
Love needs to have its perfect work in us. Forming us into laid down lovers. Choosing to die to self for sake of the other one to be all that God created them to be.
Love must purify our desires. We must allow Gods refining fire to have its way in our heart. Exposing our sin so that we may lay it at the cross and choose the better.
We must choose to surrender our dreams for His. Now that doesn’t mean our dreams are wrong, but they may not be Gods best for us. I don’t know about you but I want Gods best. I want the full expression of Gods love for me. And I also know that in my almost 26 years of living I have NO IDEA what that means. Somehow in our lives we think we know things, we know about life. But then I take a moment and reflect on how God is eternity, and me in my puny 26 years really doesn’t know all that much. The more I think about it, the more I realize my desperate need to cling to God. Because He truly does know whats best for me. He knows the beginning from the end. He wrote my story. He desires life for me.
So next time your “fairytale” interrupts the possibility of getting to know someone let LOVE interrupt that so called fairytale. You’ve already got a savior. A perfect one at that. Your future husband was never intended to be your savior. He would never, and could never live up to that. Let Holy Spirit speak to you about what makes a real man of God. Let God lead your desires. Not disney.