“State your intentions please”


It is so strong on my heart to see men and women acting in accordance to how God intended singleness unto marriage to look like.

Tonight I have been reading some amazing articles after googling “christian dating”. I was pleasantly surprised at this amazing series in particular on singleness & dating as a Christian. I would highly suggest reading the following articles all the way through!

Stop Test-Driving your girlfriend

Real Men Risk Rejection

Brother you’re like a Six

Not your Buddy

A man should be required to state his intentions for a woman. If you are allowing him to be your best buddy & have your time/energy. He doesnt need to work for you, he already has your time, attention, energy. {Want to add, that the male on the receiving side may or may not acknowledge that he has this from you. Whether he does or not does not determine how you are to act.} I want to say this in bold because you are not to hand over to just any man let alone every man your heart, time, energy however this DOES NOT MEAN you are to make men jump through hoops women! What it does mean is that you have an understanding of your worth. You realize that you are a beautiful creation that is to be honored and respected. You are to be living for one man Jesus whether single or married. When your eyes are fixed upon Him, the man will need to make his intentions known because you should be so wrapped up in gazing at the one that you almost don’t recognize or notice him in a sense. I remember describing the process in which a man & women should begin a relationship from the womans perspective to a friend who was struggling with this very issue.

In your life you are to seek first the kingdom of God, gazing at the beauty of this man, exalting His name. Suddenly there is a man standing next to you, you notice him but go back to worshipping. Before you know it you and this man are running in sync towards the same prize and pretty soon you encouraging, pushing each other to reach higher than possible before. You realize that with this person you are able to do more for the kingdom, you are able to run harder, faster, you are able to endure more together rather than apart.

I would dare you to believe that God can and will fulfill every longing, every desire within your heart. That he will purify each and every one of those desires for his glory. Instead of leaning on the crutch of loneliness, and giving your time, energy, and heart away to a man who has not yet earned it give it all to Jesus. Trust Him that he will allow the right man to step in and ask when the time is right {yes, the man may not actually act upon the lords prompting for a good month or two or six, but remember he is human. This is where praying for your future spouse comes in;} It is so important as a woman to allow the man to pursue, for the man to initiate the relationship {whether that be asking you out on an official date, or having “the talk”}. God created men to lead, as a godly woman it is your duty to allow the man to be who God created him to be. Make him man up. You will not get in a relationship quicker if you choose to spend all your time with a man who has no intention of a serious relationship, you will instead most likely find yourself crying out to God confused & hurt. So bypass that and do it the God way. Seek God.

{I am sure I will blog on being pursued another day, because that is a whole ‘nother topic in itself.}


Kymberly Janelle

5 thoughts on ““State your intentions please”

  1. I love this!!!:) I know I am not single, but I am passionate about young women pursuing godly dating and purity. It is a topic I could talk on all day. I love what you shared and I love your passion for this! 🙂 My husband just preached a series on dating and purity on these exact same issues. Thanks for sharing your heart 🙂 (if you’re interested in listening to them they are on http://www.hsmwired.com and click podcasts. They are June 5th, 12th, 19th)

  2. Amen!

    My love story is very extraordinary and just crazy.. I’ve always wanted a fairytale maybe because I had watched way too many romantic type of movies and/or because of my big imagination. I want to say that God works in very creative ways and my story contradicts a bit to what you said.. although I agree with it! Remember the story of Isaac and Rebekah, how God brought them together and their separate roles.. Hmm, I do find myself a lot like her. When we delight ourselves in the Lord and seek him wholeheartedly he will direct our steps and we will live a life with purpose and full of passion and when the time is right he’ll bring the other half and it could be in a very unusual way 🙂

  3. Love hearing your heart. Keep pursuing HIM and He will guide you and direct your path. Allow Him to determine if/when it is time for you to be in a serious relationship.


    Laurel 🙂

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