“Under Construction”

 “Unless the LORD builds the house,
         They labor in vain who build it;
         Unless the LORD guards the city,
         The watchman stays awake in vain.”

{Psalms 127:1}

I have had so many blog topics, concepts running through my head  this last week geared towards singleness. They  however all came to a standstill when I looked out the window of the coffee shop and I saw road construction.  The road had been ground down; it was now rough, bumpy and then it came to me: “under construction” is what this blog topic would be called.

In the season of singleness this is similar to what we are going through. We are under construction. When you are constructing any type of building there are several phases that it goes through. I believe we can relate these to our walk with the Lord in this season. The first scripture I think of is Psalms 127:1 which says:

 “Unless the LORD builds the house,
         They labor in vain who build it;
         Unless the LORD guards the city,
         The watchman stays awake in vain.”

In our single walk we must make sure that the Lord is building the house {in this case I am referring to you as the house – “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body[a] and in your spirit, which are God’s” –  1 Corinthians 6:19-20}. In Matthew 7:24-27 Jesus tells the parable of the man building His house:

24 “Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: 25 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock.
26 “But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: 27 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.”

Lets go over the phases it takes in building a house {I condensed it from the list of 25} and how this pertains to our walk with God:

  1.  Staking lot & house: This is completely God. He choose to create us. We had no say in this.
  2. Clearing & Excavation: First the site of where the house will be must be cleared of any debris, they must uproot any trees that do not belong. In our own lives God desires to clear out all things that hinder Him from His plans for our lives. He will uproot any ‘tree’ {ideas, false identities} that we may have about ourselves, God, and the world. This can at times be painful as we feel the Eyes of the Lord searching our hearts for the motives, desires within us. But let us remember the Fear of the Lord is clean. There is no condemnation. He cleans and reveals out of love, to draw us closer to Himself.
  3. Foundation: We must build on a firm foundation, and that foundation is the Word of God. Matthew 7 & 13 outlines what occurs when someone who hears the word of God does not allow it to root down deep. This is our responsibility to meditate, dwell on the Word of God. We are to search for God as silver and gold.
  4. Inspection: This inspection is to see how the progress is coming along. To ensure that there is nothing that was missed in laying the foundation. Many times we will feel as though we are in a time of a heart check. To assess our heart motives as we build this house. We need to make sure that as the house is being build this house we acknowledge it is for GODS glory, not our own. And it is by His power and strength that any of this is made possible.
  5. Framing & Drying & Exterior Siding: Now were there were only beams, there are now walls.  There is now protection from the elements of whats outside to those who dwell inside. In this phase no longer can any passerby, animal just walk into the house. These walls I would call boundaries. As a christian, especially single Christians it is important to have boundaries. To know what the word of the Lord says about our lifestyle. Its not about what is right and wrong, it is about what hinders love.
  6. Roofing: Covering the house is important. Through this phase, the Lord covers us in His love. He is our protection.  Were we were use to protecting ourselves in self preservation mode, we must trust that God can and will do this for us. We must allow Him to be our covering. {Psalm 91}.
  7. Insulation: I like to think of this as Holy Spirit. Its the “filling” of the house. However with Holy Spirit we are to be continually filled.
  8. Flooring & Drywall/Painting & Trim:  That on which we walk on is now being laid. What are you walking on? What have you trusting to uphold you as you walk on it? Hopefully truth. Painting & Trim is also being administered. In this we can tell the house is almost done. Let patience persevere. Let us not grow hasty and believe that we have done the work ourselves. We shine because He shines. We love, because He first loved us. Let us not be blinded by pride when we see the beauty of the house.
  9. Cleanup: There has been minor messes made up to now with the exterior painting, roofing, flooring. We learn who we are in Christ, we learn what is okay for us to wear, how to glorify God through our words… Through this process there will naturally be success’ and failures. Christ is there to help redeem and cleanup any mistakes we have made along the way.
  10. Landscaping: I like to think of this as the treatments Esther went through. The beautification, the preparing herself for the King.
  11. Final Inspections: This is another heart check. An assessment may be made. In my opinion this is where the lord reminds us of our weakness’, our natural tendencies to stray from Him. Now that the ‘final inspection’ is done, let us remember we are never completely done because we are human. We will continually go through His refining fire. This is simply a particular season on the house being built

A reminder about being “under construction” as a single person.

You are not yet ready. There is still building, trim, cleanup that needs to be done. Trying to jump ahead and invite someone into the house when you are on Phase 1 can and will hurt the both of you. This process is vital. And jumping into a relationship without an understanding of who you are in Christ can create pain in both parties.

I hope this helped those of you walking out singleness. As it is a beautiful season to be in. And there is a purpose for it, it is not just a chunk of time of waiting until your future spouse comes along. This is just my interpretation of building a house and how it correlates with our walk with God.


Kymberly Janelle

2 thoughts on ““Under Construction”

  1. I love this post because I see myself as underconstruction and I believe im on step 5 as listed above. I experienced what happens when I tried to rush through the process and put a available sign up when I didn’t first check with the inspector (God) to see if the timing was right so now I’m letting him walk me through the process and checking each room and area to make sure the foundation is firm ! Bless you for sharing this post it really opened my eyes and encouraged me.

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