{Bridal Paradigm}

The following entry was written for internship class. Topic: Describe the Bridal Paradigm


Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.  Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,  that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,  that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

{Ephesians 5:22-27}

The intention of marriage from the heart of God is to take two humans as two paintbrushes to paint a picture of what Love is. It is to symbolize the relationship between God and His people. Just as marriage requires a purity covenant/remaining faithful to their spouse, so God expects the same from His church which He refers to as His bride. In me saying YES to God He requires my allegiance to Him, to remain faithful to Him without any other lovers {Lovers in this context would refer to anything that hinders love} Many times the Body of Christ {His Bride} forget that Gods love is in the context of the bridal paradigm. The story of Jesus is not about some God who came down, gave up His life and now demands we listen to Him and do whatever He asks. In fact that couldn’t be farther from the truth. God came in flesh as love, with the desire to re-unite His people back to Himself. With a jealousy that even death could not quench.

The bridal paradigm is an invitation, a beckoning into the eternal love of God. To experience His desire and love for us just as a groom on earth so loves his bride so God loves His people. His love is an everlasting love that cannot and does not waver. It cannot waver even in the midst of trial and tribulation; when us humans would question love, loyalty, or desire it is Gods love that stands strong.

In the earthly view of a bride and groom, the engagement is the promise of whats to come. At this time a man places a ring on the woman’s finger as a promise that they will soon be together forever until death separates them. Then the wedding comes. In the wedding vows they state that the bride and groom will stand by each other for better or for worse, through sickness and health; and from that day forth they belong to each other and no other. Just how on earth as marriage is to be a sacred relationship between one man and one woman God uses this illustration to show His people what He has in store for us. In our own love story with Jesus, He came declaring His love to His bride, that He would lay His life down and then take it back up again so that His bride may live FOREVER with Him. This promise far surpasses what any earthly marriage can offer here on earth. Our hope lies in another age.

God created marriage here on earth as an example of His love for His people. Many people {myself included} have believed that marriage is the pinnacle of love. But the more I read scripture I see that marriage here on earth is merely a reminder of whats to come for ETERNITY between the King of Kings and His Bride. What Jesus promises to me and every believer is a dedication that no earthly man or woman can promise or accomplish.  Marriage on earth is not the crescendo of love. It is merely a glimpse into what eternity will be like. With that said let us not forget that God created man and woman for marriage, PRAISE GOD! And I am so excited for my day to come when marriage will become a reality for me.

Jesus is zealous for my love, for my unhindered attention and devotion just as He is devoted to me. He laid down His life for me {He did this knowing that I may not say yes, that some days I would doubt His love, and some days straight up deny His love}. Just as an earthly fiance would promise by a ring Jesus did this by His blood. I am sealed in His love, by His promise. That He will come for me. Every time I feel weak, or as though circumstances are crushing in around me I am reminded it is because my groom is not here. Life is not complete without the King of Kings reigning on earth.  Jesus’s promise to return to earth for His bride speaks of His dedication and loyalty to His people. This love no man can hinder, and Jesus himself will not relent until I surrender all. Marriage here on earth is a lot of times epitomised as the ultimate showing off that you are loved, but it is not the earthly marriage that gives one identity. It is the marriage to the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords that grants me true identity. The bridal paradigm provides me a place of abiding in His love, resting in His promise that all will be made right. He is not one that would go back on His word, He will come back for me. He will make me brand new. This is what I live for to be loved by Him, and to love Him. The very one who thousands of years ago poured out His blood so that I would know who I am. I am loved by the very one who is love. There is no greater marriage/covenant I could desire to be in.



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