Must have items for first week of having newborn

FOR MAMA:

Meal Train: You are not going to have energy to make meals for yourself let alone your spouse and you’re certainly not going to have energy to coordinate who is bringing what, when. Meal train takes care of it all for you and emails you when someone signs up. We signed up for meals to be made for us and we’ve only had to make dinner once in the first 7 days of him being here.

SHOWER: I made sure the morning we got home I took a quick shower and washed my hair cause lemme tell you I looked like a hot mess. Then again I had been in labor for 30 hours. But really though, go take a quick shower the next morning after you get home. You’ll feel refreshed and well you just had a baby come out of you so a shower may be a good idea😉

PADS: You will bleed. A lot for awhile after baby. Talk to your midwife or doctor about what is normal bleeding. This is a whole other ball game, nothing like that time of the month bleeding. Frozen pads are the best btw.

PERI-BOTTLE: This little bottle will help when its time to go the bathroom. The birth center I delivered at provided ours. I suggest buying one in case the place you’re giving birth doesn’t have one. WAY easier than the spray bottle I originally bought.

FOR BABY:

WIPE WARMER:I didn’t actually think this would have been such a big deal but it was, at least for our little guy. If you wanted to hear him cry just put a cold wipe on his bum and the cries would begin. So thank you to whoever invented this. It’s one of the few baby gadgets I fully support.  We personally have the Prince Lionhearted  which you can find at Target for $21.99

BURP CLOTHS: You’ll need them, and you’ll need lots of them. We personally use the Gerber Pre-fold diapers. They are super absorbent and way cheaper than any other burp cloths you’re going to find. We personally have two “stations” besides the changing table station with burp cloths, diapers, and wipes so we don’t have to go running for what we need. I suggest having at least 8-10. You can find them at Target: Gerber Cloth Diaper Pre-fold: $12.59

Breastfeeding MUST HAVES

NURSING BRAS: I highly suggest buying several sizes. I went from an A to C during pregnancy and then a C to a DD within two days of birth. I personally found some lace non underwire Medium, Large type nursing bras at Target to be the most comfortable to wear. Remember to avoid nursing bras with underwire. This is especially important when your breasts are engorged.

DISPOSABLE NURSING PADS: They are a must. Enough said. I have the Target up & up brand and they work great. Only thing is there is wrapping on each one (which I get is for sanitary reasons but sometimes I wish I could just grab one and go. Maybe thats just me ;) Target Up & Up brand Nursing Pads (100 ct): $11.50

LARGE WATERBOTTLE: I had no idea just how thirsty I would be all the time from breastfeeding. So I adapted a subconscious rule. When baby drinks, mama drinks. I have water bottles all over the house for me to chug. My “rule” is drink 1/2-1 water bottle per feeding. It’s way easier to just have my large water bottle filled though. Make sure it has an easy straw you don’t have to flip. One hand for baby, one hand for water bottle.

LANOLIN CREAM: Best money you will spend keeping your nipples comfortable. I don’t use it all the time but there are times I need. Here is what I use (found at Target): Medela 2oz Tender Care Lanolin: $8.19

Tips to surviving the first week of having a newborn

how to survive first week with newborn

I am not quite sure where the time has gone but our little guy is ONE WEEK OLD. Today I woke up and looked and him and he just looks bigger. Which I love because it means he is growing and healthy and a reminder that time flies and to soak up every moment with him because there will be a day he doesn’t wanna be with mama 12 hours a day.

I have loved the transition to being a momma but there are definitely some key things that have helped me transition to the role of momma that I wanted to share with you.

Give yourself grace: There will be minutes, hours, days that seem effortless other times they will seem almost impossible and the tears will flow. That is okay. What you’re doing is incredible. The life that you are giving to this little one is so commendable. Baby may be crying like the world is ending but I can assure you mama it’s not. You’ve got this. Take a deep breath and keep going.

Breastfeeding will be uncomfortable at first: IT GETS BETTER. This is the main phrase that mamas would tell me. It’s what I hold onto when little guy is cluster feeding.  While I was fortunate enough to have our little guy latch right away I can tell you a bad latch DOES HURT! So watch for their latch. Take time to get a good latch so feedings are easier. Now a week in, breastfeeding does not hurt. Remember, breastfeeding should not hurt. Good latch is everything. I owe a good latch mainly due to our nursing pillow. It puts him at the perfect height and he is able to get that latch himself without any nudging from me and I am completely hands free. Please do take time to read up on good vs. bad latches. You will feel the difference!  I personally took a breastfeeding class and it helped me so much cause lets be real the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding book is so insanely huge. I think I got a couple pages it and gave up. haha.

DON’T compare your newborn to another one: Yes, there is a general rule of thumb of how newborns will be. However your little baby is not your friends baby.

Listen to your baby: He/she will tell you what they need. Just listen. Now that he is a week old I have down his three basic need cries. Hunger: This one is fairly straight forward for us- look for his mouth rummaging for your breast, turning his head looking for breast, opening his mouth almost licking his lips😉  Gassy: Back arched and fussy. Just burp them. They will get it out. And yes, they will probably spit up so have a burp cloth ready. Diaper Change: Our little guy kicks his legs around and gets fussy, not crying like he may for being gassy just an uncomfortable fussiness.

Get outside: This has been key for me so I don’t feel like I am completely missing out on summer. I try and sit outside 5-10 minutes a day. It doesn’t sound like a lot but it helps me get my dose of Vitamin D which in turn helps with my mood.

Sleep when baby sleeps: It’s true. For the first couple days I couldn’t sleep without knowing someone was watching him for fear of him spitting up. So I would hand him off to daddy or whoever was there and take a nap. There WILL be sleep deprevation its just apart of the newborn phase there is no way around it. However you have the ability to make it somewhat do-able (I did not say easy!) by napping when the baby naps. If anything just rest. Yes, dishes need to be done. Laundry needs to be folded but your body just did the most incredible thing by creating this little one and delivering them. Give your body and self a break and rest mama.

You WILL cry. Possibly everyday: Know that you will be tired, there will be days that are EXHAUSTING that you are pushed to the brink of tears. Its okay mama. Let those tears flow. Holding them in will only create a massive breakdown later down the line. It is normal to cry, what you’re going through is a lot. When he was first born I would cry anytime he got fussy it broke my heart to see this little guy cry and not be able to fix it instantly. Again, give yourself grace. This baby is not expecting perfection- he is expecting love.

Ask for help: Whether it be a meal delivered, or someone to hold baby. I learned I needed my sleep (duh!) so when family came over I would hand baby off and go take a nap. Keeping yourself ‘charged’ is so important.

Use the resources available to you: I am so thankful for the amazing breastfeeding Facebook group I am apart of. They women on there are so encouraging and quick to build up other women (this is a local group- so sorry I cannot add you). Take a look around though. Search for mommy groups that are in your area, look on Facebook, read books. There are SO MANY ways to find the information you need whether it be from books, small groups, or online.

Take a shower: Seriously though, its so easy to put the little one first but mama unless you’re feeling good no one is going to feel good. Take five minutes to take a shower, wash your hair and take a deep breath. I try and do this in the morning when little man is taking his first morning nap.

Put on some makeup/do your hair: Doesn’t matter if you’re going out or not. Put on some makeup and/or do your hair. It can get mundane at home, but thats no reason to not put yourself first and keep feeling good. I find I do one or the other. Curling wands are perfect for this. Curls hair so quick and the heat is so hot my hair will stay curled for days to come. What more could a busy mama ask for?

 

How to make Padsicles

postpartum padsicles

When I became pregnant I asked a select few friends what they suggested I buy and make for ME for pregnancy and post partum. One of the things that everyone suggested were these padsicles. There are several different ways to do them. Some people just pop pads in the freezer as is. However I know with all the swelling and potential tearing I would want a little extra something on the pad.

This is seriously so quick mom’s to be. It took me MAYBE 5 minutes to do an entire package of pads and pop them in the freezer.

 

WHAT YOU NEED

PADS – I choose TENA pads simply because I got them free from couponing last year and have been needing to use them. While they are “ultra thin” they are about regular absorbency period pads.

Aloe Vera Target- $3.74

Witch HazelTarget – $2.49

Spray bottle- Target- $0.97 : Found in the travel section (This is not necessary but I thought it would be easier than trying to pour from the large container. So glad I did this. This way if I wanna spray the pads more I can super easy)

 

 

how to make padsicles

First I poured some of the witch hazel into the small spray bottle I got. Made it so much easier to apply to each pad and not risk pouring entire bottle all over one pad.
how to make padsicles how to make padsicles

Now it was time to start making them! I started with Aloe Vera. I just squirted a line of aloe and then took my fingers and rubbed it in.
how to make padsicles

Then I sprayed with the Witch Hazel.
how to make padsicles

I realized after doing one pad it was going to take a long time if I unwrapped, and did one pad at a time so I created a mini assembly line and did 5-10 at a time. See my brain isn’t completely fried due to pregnancy brain😉
how to make padsicles

The assembly line…how to make padsicles

And that is all. See, I told you super easy.

I just did one bag worth (24). Because it was so easy if I need to make more later I can. Not sure how many I will go through each day. I will update this post once I use them and let you know if theres anything I would have changed or if I would have wished I made 5 bags more😉

how to make padsicles All ready for the freezer.

 

 

 

 

Organizing babies dresser

 

His IKEA dresser is all finished. We found black knobs at IKEA for $1.99 (SCORE!) that we swapped out with the ones it had before. The ones it came with had nothing to grab onto.

organizing ikea dresser for nursery

ikea nursery dresser

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I love how it looks now. Simple, and clean just how I like it.

Total cost for entire dresser, knobs, and organizers was: $41 !!!

Dresser: Found on local FB Swap + Shop Group : $30

Drawer Organizers: Dollar Tree: $1 ea x 9

Knobs: IKEA $1.99

I have organized all the drawers and love how they look. Granted newborn clothes are TINY and I will never be able to fit so many clothes in here as I can now but for now I am going to soak up every little bodysuit rolled up.

organizing nursery dresser

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Social media: Choosing not to judge

I love social media. I know people who see it as a deep dark hole of narcissim but I see it in a completely different light and I would love to share with you my view on social media and why I partake in it on a daily basis. I actually have a couple posts on this topic. This first one is talking about choosing not to judge.

I have no shame that I take selfies. I don’t judge others for taking them either. We don’t know anyones story. Sometimes we share our story in our little captions other times we leave it blank. What we don’t know is the story behind that selfie, that food picture, that picture of their home…It could be that girl felt like crap all day and then pulled herself out of that funk, put some makeup on and felt good and decided to take a selfie. It could be that mom has had a laundry pile the size of Texas the last two weeks and finally her bed is clear of any trace of laundry and looking at her bed perfectly made brings her peace and she snaps a picture. Or maybe that person posting pictures of them and their partner posting sappy posts has actually been through a near divorce and so taking pictures of them hugging, kissing, and loving each other is a way bigger deal than we realize.

What about that mom that only posts pictures of her smiling babies and kiddos laughing? Have you thought for a moment maybe its because she is so overwhelmed with the late nights, and long days of fits, sleepless nights, and crying that by posting the smiling and laughing pictures it is a reminder to her that yes there is relief, there is beauty in the mundane.

Granted not every person that posts on social media falls into these categories but I know from experience from friendships that this IS the case for some, if not a lot of moms and women. So instead of judging them for “putting on a facade” of “only posting the perfect pictures” stop for a moment and consider there is more behind the picture than meets the eye.

So here is to social media. May we learn to grow from and with each other. Strengthening and not shaming. Encouraging and not envying.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic!